lol i am da werst at doing things. we don’t have internet until tuesday so I’m just sitting in the jrc. can’t find my animal behavior book, need to start making my syllabus and should probably do some readings. last night was my first sleep in the house and we had waffles & eggs this morning. woooonderfullllllll

also, I think I found a new bike! this will be my 3rd one at grinnell, y y y is everything horrible? hopefully I can pick it up tomorrow, it’s a 10-minute drive from the zoo.

theseasonofthewitch:

WHAT IN THE WORLD IS UP LEMME HIGH FIVE THIS BABE

emes:

:(((((

bewareofmpreg:

Mei to Koneko Bus (2001)

How to deal with people who wear unflattering outfits

vile-insect:

saschaeatsteeth:

eatyourpaisley:

gtfothinspo:

infinitetransit:

1. Realise all aesthetic choices are subjective.
2. Realise that they might think they look sexy as fuck.
3. Remove yourself from the vicinity until you’ve learned to get over your fatphobia/transphobia/misogyny/racism or combination of those.

4. Look back at them with refreshed eyes and realize how sexy they look.

fuck flattering

Unlearning toxic shit & striving to exist perpetually in a state of #4 is like feeling the sun on my skin & life will never be the same

Directly above is fucking beautiful and important and so, so real.

houseofghibli:

Chihiro/Sophie/Kiki/Satsuki/Mei/San

disneyfaceswap:

Submission from jillthejellyfish. (Hunchback)

catladysoul:

betabetabeatbeat:

“Is venture capital a sexist industry?” -David Kirkpatrick, moderating the all-male investing panel at TechCrunch Disrupt

…to the all-male panel

lol is that clara’s dad?

I AM BEAUTIFUL and going to iowa tomorrow so I can’t wait for Hailey to send me my driver’s license because I left it in Athens, waaahh

this has been the worst id photo I’ve ever taken! this one isn’t even funny. at least it expires in november~

Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.

If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.

If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?

A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.

If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.

Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator

I wish I didn’t need to reblog stuff like this. I wish people *got it*. But judging from the ridiculous response to these posts, stuff like this clearly still needs to be repeated. 

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You’re either loose, (some young girls of color are just automatically marked “fast” as soon as their bodies develop) or a stuck up bitch.

Either way your sexuality, or how others want to decide what your sexuality is, is the main factor that determines how human others want to treat you…

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If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.

And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.

Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.

Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”

Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”

Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.

Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.

Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.

Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts.

People wonder why women don’t “fight back,” but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.

And then, all of a sudden, when women are raped, all these natural and invisible social interactions become evidence that the woman wasn’t truly raped. Because she didn’t fight back, or yell loudly, or run, or kick, or punch. She let him into her room when it was obvious what he wanted. She flirted with him, she kissed him. She stopped saying no, after a while.

Harriet J on Another post about rape 

Shattering truth. 

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maybe I’m still sick or maybe this malaria pill has got me feeling really weird because i can’t feel my fingers typing right now and i’ve been really nervous about not wanting to take it and i keep repeating “this feels really weird” over and over in my head

this feels really weird this feels really weird this feels really weird this feels really weird this feels really weird this feels really weird don’t look in the mirror this feels really weird

The police are very kind when I’m a young white woman just doing my job, contributing to society. But when I’m at a protest they will follow orders to hit, kick, and pepper spray me. If I had been one of the queer women arrested and detained during the G20 protests in Toronto, as I easily could have been, I would have been subject to threats of rape, vaginal-digital “searches,” and homophobic threats and insults by officers. Police blame rape victims for “dressing like sluts.” Police give black Muslim cyclists fines of $1,316 for eight bicycle violations in the course of two minutes. Police beat native youth unconscious and leave them to die in the snow. As a woman, a queer person, and an anti-racist person, I do not trust the police. I do not trust them not to harass and abuse me, and I did not trust them not to harass and abuse the man who was making me so nervous in the store last week.

- Mary Burnet, quoted in “Trying to understand a tragedy” at the Halifax Media Co-op (April 23, 2012)

one of the best ways i’ve seen a white person address their privilege in relation to the attitude of “calling the cops” when you feel unsafe. for so, so many people, calling the cops means exactly the opposite.

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this quote from mary’s article in the hfx media co-op has been making it’s way around tumblr recently.

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From my brilliant friend Mary..

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